Often people believed what they wanted instead of what reality was screaming. Many put faith in the mainstream media and its political predictions, or in “too good to be true” promises. The thing is, many who were deceived would describe themselves as emotionally intelligent and their dupers as the opposite. But it’s not so simple, the problem is emotional intelligence isn’t what people or better to say, most people think it is. One defines emotional intelligence as a person’s ability to find emotions, recognize the powerful effects of those emotions, and use that information to inform and guide. Emotional intelligence can help you reach your goals and help you persuade others to your opinion. But to utterly understand this ability, there are two misconceptions one needs to set straight.
1. Emotional Quotient and Emotional
Intelligence are the same thing.
1. Emotional intelligence isn't
inherently virtuous.
EQ will forever be linked to IQ - and
the very meaning of the word "quotient" implies a degree of
measurement.
But EQ tests don't really measure
emotional intelligence because emotional intelligence, by definition,
emphasizes practical use - an individual's ability to apply his or her
knowledge of emotions to manage one's own behaviour. Similar to IQ tests, these
assessments could provide a subject with insight into one's emotional knowledge
and abilities. But one should stop thinking of EQ and EI as interchangeable.
Emotional intelligence is a practical ability. And while a person may understand
the principles of how emotions work in real life, the application of that knowledge
is another story. This concept is important because it helps explain why we,
even with a high EQ, can still do stupid things (emotionally speaking). We
might think we're sensitive to others' feelings. But are we really?
Becoming aware of your emotional behaviour is certainly important. Instead
of focusing only on increasing your EQ, however, it is recommended to put forth equal effort to apply what you've already learned. Because what really
matters isn't how much you know, it’s how you use what you know.
